What is your view of God’s order in family and why do you hold this view?
God’s hierarchy for family order is :
God the Father
Scripture References are:
But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
1. Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. 2 Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;) 3 That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. 4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
Husbands and parents are to understand that biblical authority does not mean that they are dictatorial or tyrannical in their authority. They are to die to themselves in order to do what is best for those under their authority. A husband is to help his wife grow in glory by loving her, leading her and lifting her with encouragement.
25) Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
A wife is to voluntarily grant allegiance and loyalty to her husband out of devotion. She is to adapt to the needs of her husband. Submission has nothing to do with inferiority or superiority. It is an act of faith in God and his word.
22) Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
Whenever a husband or parent requests that the wife of child do something contrary to the Word of God, ( for example, lie, speed, cheat on taxes, participate in sin), they are to obey God rather than man.
Then Peter and the other apostles answered and said, We ought to obey God rather than men.
3 But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God. (ESV)
6:1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), 3 “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” 4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. (ESV)
25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. (ESV)
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. (ESV)